No matter what all of the music and festivities might say, it is okay to be sad during the holiday season. It is not easy to balance the stress of finals with all of the last-minute, end of semester events that always seem to be popping up. Take a few minutes to breathe in the cold air, relax and enjoy the season, even when that is not always as easy as fruitcake.
The holidays are a time where the world is supposed to be cheerful. Christmas is a time to celebrate the birth of the savior for Christians all around the world. Hanukkah is a time to celebrate a miracle for people of Jewish faith. Kwanzaa is a time to celebrate African American and Pan-African culture, history and values. Even New Year’s Day brings merriment at the anticipation of a bright future ahead. There seems to always be something to celebrate in December, but it is okay if there does not seem to be anything cheery about what the world is saying.
“Thoughts of joy and hope and cheer,” The Christmas Can-Can by popular a cappella group Straight No Chaser said.
The secret: December brings more than joy, hope and cheer. Finals, cold weather and stress, to be exact.
However, there are some ways to combat the start of the seasonal depression season. As a resident sad-person-at-the-holidays, I can offer a few pearls of wisdom that have allowed me to get into the Christmas spirit despite extenuating circumstances.
First off, do not completely drown in school work. It is easy to get lost in the stress of exams, but walling oneself in a room to study for hours and days on end is simply not healthy. Put on that Christmas playlist and take a break to sing Mariah Carey between calculus problems.
Second, plan a fun event with friends. It does not have to be anything crazy or complicated. The best way to stop yourself from wallowing in winter loneliness is to reach out to others. It can be as simple as going to the End of Semester Dinner or a basketball game. Small apartment holiday gatherings or friend group Secret Santas are not out of the question, either.
Third, try putting up some decorations. It is surprising how much a little bit of holiday pizazz can brighten a dorm room or apartment. When taking work breaks, glance around at the glow of lights or the sparkle of decor. It just might bring a smile.
Fourth, go outside. I know it seems crazy with recent temperatures in the 30s, but going outside is a great way to feel refreshed. Mix up studying by a quick stroll around the campus green. Take a look at the beautiful, twinkling Christmas tree playing holiday music all day and night. Take a deep breath and feel just how cold the winter air is – and how cold weather does not mean one has to stay indoors.
Fifth, start thinking about Winter Break. Yes, there may be a lot of exams before then, but just know that the end is in sight. Whether it is one’s first semester or one’s seventh, it is always an accomplishment to get through an entire semester’s worth of college coursework. Start thinking about that snuggly blanket at home and binge watching Only Murders in the Building by the crackling fireplace. It might be the needed extra boost to get through the last study session.
Finally, I just want to reiterate that all feelings are valid. There are always resources to help. Whether it is reaching out to a family member, a friend, a professor, a coworker or anyone trustworthy, there is someone out there who deeply cares during the holidays. The University Counseling Center is also available at 610-519-4050 or on the second floor of the health services building.
Relax, take a deep breath and know that the holiday season and all its cheer are always here if desired.
