Red lipstick, stiletto high heels, apathy toward the opposing sex and a martini in hand. These are the common visuals we associate with the perceived concept of the “Divine Feminine.”  

However, what if I were to tell you that there is an uptick in “Divine Femininity” in everyday life, beyond the high-rise penthouse rooftops of New York City and the latest James Bond movie?  Furthermore, what if I were to tell you that applying “Divine Feminine Magic” to all aspects of your life could enhance it?

The usage of “feminine magic” is one that is centered around the idea of using the key traits of womanhood to gain favor in various facets of life. 

Often, femininity is associated with joyous and humble qualities–compassion, empathy and receptivity (to name a few).  However, the concept of Divine Femininity implores you to access the contrasting side: the femme fatale.

The femme fatale, in practical use, is a woman who knows her boundaries. You take two hours to text her back? She doubles it. You forget her birthday? She forgets your name.  

The femme fatale knows her self-worth and makes sure those around her know it too. Even if she doesn’t truly know it, she makes you think she does. That is what makes her a femme fatale.

Too often in our modern society, we see low-effort being widely accepted (and even lauded) in relationships. One partner begs for the bare minimum, while the other can barely supply the bare minimum.  

It becomes a cycle of complacency: the low-effort partner is aware that their significant other will allow this behavior to continue, and thus it continues. This is where the Divine Feminine comes into play.

First, you must subscribe to rule #1 of divine feminine energy: you do not chase, but you attract.  By refusing to chase after another person, demand more effort from your partner or simply acknowledge the opposite sex, you are becoming a woman of scarcity. 

A woman of scarcity is sought after, as we are biologically skewed to value what there is less of. Yes, the concept of supply and demand translates to the human experience, as well.

So, what does this look like when applied to the modern dating scene? Perhaps the most important mentality is non-attachment, that you are able to walk away easily from what is not serving you.  

This can be very difficult in practice. We are vulnerable creatures, yearning to love and care for other vulnerable (and flawed) creatures. 

However, it is important that as a student of “Divine Femininity,” you command effort through your confidence and innate ability to walk away from things you cherish, even when it is painful. 

Essentially, establishing boundaries that amplify the lighter side of the feminine nature and surrendering to them, regardless of circumstance, leads to the fulfillment of this key concept.

Accessing the contrasting aspects of your feminine nature will not solely assist you in your relationship dilemmas, but also in platonic relationships and your career. 

Everyone has that friend who seemingly takes their kindness for granted and never reaches out first. By utilizing the key tools of femininity, you can use your “light feminine energy” to evaluate why the friend is behaving in this manner, while simultaneously utilizing your “dark feminine energy” to obtain the reciprocity you deserve. When applied to a career, using your feminine energy can be seen by using the connective and creative nature of the feminine genius to advance in the professional sphere.

Regardless of your view on whether or not such actions can be gendered, I hope everyone can take away one thing: we are a duality, not a singularity. 

You can be gentle, yet strong.  You can be vulnerable, yet protective of your best interests. You can be understanding, yet boundary-setting. Simply put, by recognizing your ability to balance the extremes and identify the application of such energies, you will benefit and represent that of the “Divine Feminine.”