Dear WiseCat,Does love really conquer all? Or do reason and passion play a role in this never-ending game of relationships?Sincerely,Love Conqueror
Dear Love Conqueror,
“One thing I truly knew – knew in the pit of my stomach, in the center of my bones, knew it from the crown of my head to the soles of my feet, knew it deep in my chest – was how love gave someone the power to break you.” A friend showed me this quote from Twilight the other day, proclaiming and validating this statement with her own life experiences. But, “break you”? I’m going to take some writer’s license with this one and replace the author’s words with “bend you.” With every step we take, we inevitably run into someone who gives us chills, makes us weak in the knees and at last fall in love, despite our differences. It is something about their charm, words and overall romantic attitude that have us connected to them and, in turn, them to us. But what do we do when love, passion and reason all play a large part in the decision of the fate of a relationship? At some point the inevitable happens, we have to make a decision.Love. We have exhausted this topic as human beings and college students. We tend to throw the word around so much that the idea and excitement behind it simply mirrors those of an overplayed song on our favorite radio station. With that being said, each person’s meaning of the word should be different from someone else’s. Not everyone’s love is passionate. Not everyone experiences the chills or nervousness that you feel, and the whole world might not turn upside down when the word is heard. The idea of love will most likely play a large role in the decision regarding a relationship.Passion. Everyone has some type of passion, whether it is for the other person or just to keep the relationship going. Passion and the idea of not wanting to lose the other person encompasses every aspect of not wanting to let the other go. Reason. Sometimes we need to step away from the situation, whether it is romantic or not. We need to analyze and take apart the situation. Each situation has various layers. The first layer being love, the second layer passion and then the third being reason. So when making a decision, which do you go by? Do you follow the reason side, the series of events or go with the idea of passion and drive? Or like everyone asks, do you follow your heart? In my opinion, love conquers all, but so does reason. Throw out passion for the moment that will come after you make the decision. Take some time for yourself when deciding what to do. It will probably be one of the hardest points in your relationship. Just always know that no matter what your heart and mind decide, you will always be with that person, the reason will eventually prevail.